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A few months ago, I went to a local production of Eve Ensler's, I Am An Emotional Creator , the Secret Life of Girls . I went with my God daughter and her parents. I had already heard  Eve speak on this topic on Ted Talks, Embrace Your Inner Girl , (see video above). She spoke about the essentials on the status of women who have been traumatize for being a woman or female throughout the world. She spoke of her book "I Am an Emotional Creature, the Secret Life of Girls," which speaks of how our "inner girl cell" that both men and women have inside of us, has been oppressed, killed by living in a male dominated world  for thousands of years. And, as a result we have created a world in which being born a girl is one of the worst things that you could be. Of course I already knew these facts and have been aware of the status of girls and women in this culture for decades. I have done many hours of research on this very issue. My own “mission” is to enlighten w...

The dictionary definition says the word empowerment means:  1). To give power or authority to; authorize, especially by legal or official means: 2). to enable or permit. En or In means power. To give power, authority to someone or something. But for me, this word conveys more than this simple definition It says  to feel powerful from within. to feel strong, confident, wholly powerful. It truly describes the feminine way of  power. The Culture We Live In In the world we live in today, women and girls are being sexualized and objectified as sex objects at earlier and earlier ages.   Girls begin to mimick the Brittny Spears's, Hannah Montana's of the T.V. and music world. as early as age 3. They don't really know what they are doing but nevertheless they are doing it. Shaking their little booties and bumping and grinding.   As they grow and begin to mature into young girls they are exposed to yet more sex on MTV, ...

As human beings evolve from being homo-sapiens to homo- spiritus,  then it would naturally follow that something as important and significant as sex, and the way we choose to perceive and use it would evolve as well. For thousands of years in our Western Christian Culture sex has been thought of as only a means for procreation of the species and what a husband and wife do in the privacy of their bedroom. The earliest misinterpretation of the sex act comes from the story of Adam and Eve. Here we are told that it was because Eve bit the apple of knowledge, which is the knowledge of her sexuality , her humanness and then seduced Adam to do the same that sex and womankind were doomed. With this story, they made sex shameful. Now this is just one interpretation of that act, and there are countless others that you may wish to explore for yourself. Christian doctrine began to teach in the 3rd and 4th Centuries that sex was the root of all evil and that it was because of man’s awakenin...

Imagine a world where it was safe to be a woman, safe to be a girl, and grow up with positive images of girls and women. Images that show women as smart, strong, confident, loving themselves just the way they are, in all body types, all ages, and free from any constraints regarding their sexuality. To live in a world where being female was not something that needed to be defended, protected, hidden or exploited, but rather honored, respected, loved and supported. What would it feel like to live in a world where feminine values were an integral part of the culture? I am asking these questions because I have been doing research recently on the subject of “girl world” or what it means to be a girl growing up in the 21st Century, and I have to say I am horrified. Now I know this is a rather strong word to be using but it nevertheless is true. Having a Goddaughter who just turned 15 I decided to do some serious reading regarding the current sexualization of girls and children by th...

How do women define what makes them look and feel sexy? This is a question I have asked myself for quite some time. I even offer a workshop for women exploring this very issue. Women have been told for hundreds if not thousands of years what they have to look like in order to be a “sexy” woman. Each culture has its own definition of beauty and what a sexually attractive woman is, and these attitudes are reflected in the way women are told to dress, behave and act. Today we have Madison Ave., fashion magazines, movies and music lyrics that tell us how you can be a “sexier” you. We are constantly bombarded with messages that tell us how we should look, act, think, feel and what we should wear in order to be a sex goddess, have a fulfilling sex life, have the man of our dreams and so on. With all of our advancement in the workplace, in some political arenas and in with some of our male/female relationships, women are still living within the framework of the old paradigm that wa...

Hundreds of girls are seeking a way to escape their lives. Most come from a middle to lower income family, in small towns across America. These girls are not necessarily coming from an abusive home or severe poverty. Most have both parents at home, who love them and want only the best for their daughters, and some are on their way to college when they see this ad and take a detour. Hot Girls Wanted is the titIe of a documentary on Netflix. The subject of this film was the story of five girls who went into the amateur porn industry and what happened to them along the way. An ad on Craigslist offered a free flight to Miami and promised work as a star in the amateur porn industry earning up to $3000 a film. The amateur porn industry has been on the rise. Today it is a multi-billion dollar industry that is attracting young women ages 18-25 from all over the country. The allure is freedom and more money than they have ever made.  For the girls in this documentary it sounds l...

What is the New Millennium Woman? What are the qualities of this type of woman? How can we recognize this woman when we meet her? What will she look like, sound like, feel like? We are living in one of the most exciting and transformative times on earth. We have entered into a New Age, some say it is the Aquarian Age that has been foretold in sacred texts, and because of this, those who are called are beginning to acquire a new set of skills and evolving into a true "human being." The times we are living in are now dictating this new human. We are becoming more awake to our true nature and staying connected to our source, we are evolving into our enlightened selves our essence.   The New Millennium Woman a woman of the New World, is a woman of her own creation.   It has been thirteen years since the beginning of the New Millennium. Hard to believe how fast the time has gone by and the first wave of this new Era is well on its way. We have passed through many of t...