HOT GIRLS WANTED...THE TRUTH ABOUT THE AMATEUR PORN BUSINESS





Hundreds of girls are seeking a way to escape their lives. Most come from a middle to lower income family, in small towns across America. These girls are not necessarily coming from an abusive home or severe poverty. Most have both parents at home, who love them and want only the best for their daughters, and some are on their way to college when they see this ad and take a detour.
Hot Girls Wanted is the titIe of a documentary on Netflix. The subject of this film was the story of five girls who went into the amateur porn industry and what happened to them along the way. An ad on Craigslist offered a free flight to Miami and promised work as a star in the amateur porn industry earning up to $3000 a film.
The amateur porn industry has been on the rise. Today it is a multi-billion dollar industry that is attracting young women ages 18-25 from all over the country. The allure is freedom and more money than they have ever made.  For the girls in this documentary it sounds like the answer to a prayer.  What they are not told in this ad is that their career in the amateur porn businesses will be short lived. After their time in the sun is over, they will  more than likely  be tossed out onto the street. Fresh new faces are what is wanted; if you are lucky you may last a year, tops. Most last 3-6 months.  You see, in this businesses, the demand is for fresh faces. It doesn’t matter if you are pretty with a great body;  for every one girl, there are hundreds more who are seeking the promise of fame, fortune and the freedom it claims to bring.
The idea of being a porn star, even if it is amateur, sounds exciting and daring. Something that they would never want their parents or friends back home to know about. Unfortunately, that is not the way it turns out.  Within a month, someone they know will have seen their photo on the internet. These films are made for the internet and are posted on sites that charge money for porn.
So why take the risk?  Each girl stated that the attention she was getting from the men who filmed them, or took their photos felt good. For the first time she felt like a princess;  she felt desirable and beautiful.  Being in a porn film for these girls gave them a (false) sense of self-esteem,  even knowing they are being used as objects to be sold.
The Problem
In today’s culture of oversexualization, young women everywhere are more confused than ever about what feminine sexual empowerment is. Part of the problem is that most teens are having sex before they are 15. Sex becomes something you just do.  One girl said, most of her middle school friends were having sex and so she thought she would too. After she did, she said, “I never want to do it again”. When she decided to go into amateur porn she wasn’t sure she would even be able to have sex with strange men.
Also, porn is now available for free over the internet and many teens have seen at least some porn before they are 16. What they see is not two adults who care about each other making love, but rather a mindless, emotionless and mechanical sex act. What is being taught is that sex is for a guys pleasure and often done roughly or without much care about the girl or her needs. Girls are seen as sexual toys to be used for the sexual satisfaction of the man, and the reciprocal act is not even mentioned or implied.
One girl in this film, let’s call her Stacy, stated that after the initial excitement wore off, it became just another job. She felt that all she was, was  meat, body parts to be sold, and that she did not matter at all. Linda stated that one guy was so big it hurt her and another girl got a serious infection from the friction of intercourse with too many men. It became so painful that she could no longer work.  The first film for one girl was what she called, fuck facing. This is where a man forces a girl to give him head and then she vomits. This was her first experience in making a film. The language used was derogatory and debasing for the girl. Afterward, she said the crew kept asking if she was ok, and she said she was. But she never did that type of film again.
The fact is that of the 5 girls in the film, only 2 were still in the industry after 6 months. The others had left and gone home. They now have a different perspective of porn and what it does to those who watch it and to those who go into the business.
The porn industry itself is not new of course and as long as there is a demand for it, it will exist. The women and men who choose to go into porn as their profession may go into it for the same reasons, but they’re often more aware of the inroads of becoming a porn star.  I have known many women who chose to become porn stars, and for the most part enjoyed their stint in the industry.  Some went into it because they loved sex and wanted to be paid for it.  The difference is that when a woman chooses to exploit her sexuality, she is in control. She calls the shots and she is then empowered. For most of the girls who get into the amateur porn industry this is not the case. They are seduced by the possibility of quick cash and a little bit of fame. But in reality, what they get is not such a rosy experience.
The early exposure of porn to young teens has now become the norm, causing a whole new set of problems that adults are finding difficult to deal with. How can you stop your child from being exposed to  porn on the internet when it is so easy to find? With more and more girls thinking  that posing nude and posting it on the internet is sexy, and will get them the attention and self- esteem they desire.
Young women are being taught that their value is in the way they look; if they are sexy, and getting the attention of men.  They believe they must seek the attention of a man to feel good about themselves rather than allowing their value to be based on who they are and what they have to offer, aside from sex.
So What Can You Do?
If you have a daughter who is beginning to explore her sexuality or are dealing with a teen that is similar to one of these girls, the first thing you can do is to educate her, and yourself. Do what you need to do to learn more about these issues and speak frankly about them. Become the sex educator for your family. Sit down with your daughter(s) and watch documentaries that explore these topics and issues. Sexy Baby, on Netflix, is very provocative, informative and very enlightening. There are others available in this genre as well. Have a discussion about what they are saying. Talk with her, not at her. Find out why she wants to have sex. Help her to understand that she has the power to choose who he wishes to be with. Share with her the responsibilities of having sex and the difference between making love and “hooking up”.  You may not be able to stop her from exploring her sexuality at age 15, but you can prepare her to be responsible and to become empowered with her choices.

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