YONI SPEAK

What is the true meaning of being a sister to another woman? This question of how women can create new ways of being with each other is an on going one for me. One the the key components for building trust between women is to give your women friends equal billing with your primary partner if you have one.  It is unfortunate that our culture has fostered competition between women, so that women often find it hard to trust other women especially when it comes to men. It seems that what really causes us to compete with each other over a man is our "primal need factor". This is our primal urge to be protected and provided for by a man. This basic urge is often the motivation behind our behavior when it comes to "keeping our man," even though we may not be aware of it. Women have been accepting this need and acting it out for so long that it has become our norm, and so we just accept that this is how women are. But does this have to be the way it is? No, I believe it d...

I love the word 'allure'. The word itself captivates one and I find it holds the energy of its meaning. To be alluring is 1) to temp or entice; 2) the power of attraction, 3) to beguile. It could also mean that one has charisma or even the power to seduce or be seductive. When one is 'alluring' the allured is under a “spell” or so it may seem. Don’t you just love knowing that if you are a woman you have the power to beguile? In fact that is where it all began in the mythical Garden of Eden when the Snake (symbol for sexuality) beguiled Eve to eat the apple of knowledge. The question I wish to explore here is if this is the old definition of what it means to be alluring then what could the new definition be? This is an important question for women to answer, for ever since the ‘fall’ we women have been trying to apologize for being a woman. I believe that the time has come to reshape, reconfigure and redefine what it means to be a woman who has allure or what I c...

Today was the day that I died a good death. A breakthrough sure why not call it that. In the midst of my suffering, the ego that is, the small self that we all feel attached to, I prayed for Grace, for peace and to remember who I Am. In the midst of my releasing the pain I created and create by identifying with the false self, a miracle occurred. The I dissolved into nothingness and the mind stopped. I remember both Eckhart Tolle and Gangaji saying the same thing basically, that when the pain gets to great in the pain body you can say STOP!!!!! And so I did. And my mind stopped and I was able to meet my-SELF once again. In this meeting of my-SELF I saw everything that has been happening in my life, all the drama, as not important, as perfect in it's opportunity to bring me to this place. I saw that what causes the suffering regarding anything that we may do is duality, judging something good or bad, right or wrong. I saw that it was my judging my particular situation as ...

What does the empowered woman feel like?  I know we have used the word empowered quite a bit over the past few years. But for me, this word conveys an energy that I like. To feel empowered is for me to feel powerful from within. It truly describes the feminine way of power. Our essential feminine power comes from our core, our sexual center, and our yoni. For men, it resides in the hara or dantien, the solar plexus.  You see the most potent force that women have is our shakti. Our primal life force, sexual creative energy. This force resides in all of us, but for women, it is what in many ways defines us. It is this primal energy from our sex center, the second chakra, (that point just above the pelvic bone) that enables us to create life, to be both wild and untamable as well as docile, harmonious, and calm.  Our sexual energy is our true feminine power as it is here that the creation of life begins and the mystery of our body is held. Our sexual energy entices, ...

Baubo is one of the names of a mythical Greek woman, said to be a servant or wet nurse to the grain goddess Demeter. Baubo exposes her vulva before Demeter, an act called ana-surimi , a Greek verb literally meaning to lift one's skirts. the effect was to make Demeter laugh during a time when the Grain Goddess was deep in mourning over the loss of her daughter, Persephone. But Baubo can be seen as a much older symbol for the power and the energy of female sexuality. She can also be viewed as trickster figure, who with her own jokes, magic, and laughter embodies fecundity and fertility. We have no images of a clearly identifiable Baubo, but her various shapes and her memory have persisted in myth and ritual. She was neither goddess nor night demon, though at times she was claimed as such. For you and me, Baubo can remind us to laugh whenever we become to serious and if picking up our skirts will do the trick then so be it.

Recently, in doing research for a book I am writing, I discovered to my horror how the myth of Adam and Eve was changed to fit the Christian Church's political agenda of the times. Being a woman has never been easy, especially if you happened to be one in Rome, Greece, or anywhere in Europe around 400 AD. The body was considered evil, and sex is almost forbidden except for the act of procreation. And since women represented a temptation to man's contemplation of God, she was seen as the evil temptress. The world was made to believe that women caused the downfall of the human race. This is some pretty heavy 'karma' to live down. So women for generations have taken on these beliefs, and men have too, that have caused us to live in a constant state of apology for being a woman. In my last blog, " Take the Apology Out of Being a Woman" , I refer to these facts. But what I wish to speak about here is how we as women can reclaim the innocence that was taken from us...

Have you ever wondered why women seem to be constantly apologizing for being a woman? I have and what I discovered was, that it is time for women to stop apologizing for being female. Now you may be asking yourself what does this mean, I never see women apologizing for that. But if you take a moment to think about that statement and what it is really saying, you might find yourself answering this question differently. Women have been apologizing for thousands of years for having a vagina, or vulva, for being sexual, for being powerful, clever, smart, creative, for being a woman   with a body that is sexual by nature. It is this apology that is actually part of our collective consciousness and is inbred in every woman and man whether they are aware of it or not. Today in our society it may look like women have made huge strides in the world of men. This is true in so far as a few legal wins, being able to vote, and sexual freedoms. But the culture in which we all li...