YONI SPEAK

Have you ever longed to just be? To just allow life to unfold and open to the infinite intelligence that you are? To know yourself as the stillness that is everywhere in and around you? For the past two months, I have been going deeper into this exploration and learning how to embody "being" A time to just lie fallow and allow myself to let go of even more of who I thought I was. To discover some of those beliefs you hold about yourself that you thought you let go of, no longer identified with and then discovered they were still running your life. This process of dying to the old person you have been and then being reborn without attaching yourself to another role, an idea or a belief about yourself takes a true commitment to your process of awakening. For me, this process began in my twenties as a life-long journey of getting to know mySelf. To be the master of my own life and to live as Presence. This desire has been my soul's purpose and learning how to manifest f...

For centuries women have been classified into categories of being either good or bad.  Good being virginal, (her hymen intact), a woman that does not sleep around or who is not promiscuous; bad meaning, just the opposite, a “whore”, slut, seductress/seducer, a woman who enjoys sex with many men who steal other women’s men or who just enjoys sex.   Although today in Western society, women have more freedom than ever before, these old attitudes still remain.   In many other countries throughout the world, a woman’s virginity is still considered a prize possession kept only for her husband and if a woman is found to not be virginal when she is of a marriageable age she is ostracized and considered ruined and  unclean.  Clitorectomy's are still performed in some Islamic cultures because they believe that women are too sexual by nature and therefore their sexual desire must be curtailed. A girl is pure and innocent if she has never touched herself o...

When God Was a Woman Imagine a time when God was a woman 15,000 – 5,000 BCE, and women were considered holy and their bodies sacred. These cultures were connected to the Earth and called her the Great Goddess and were primarily peace-loving and depended upon the land to survive. Most of these cultures during this time period were matrilineal that means that the mother passed on her wealth to the daughter. Women’s roles often combined motherhood, gathering food, seeds, nuts and berries, herbs for healing and were the ones who sustained the community and provided its’ foundation and center. They are often thought of as partnership societies because men and women’s roles had equal importance and neither sex overpowered the other. ​ Women were seen as the mediators between the Goddess and the tribe. A woman could access the power of the Goddess and it was thought that she could identify more easily with Her. Women were considered a mystery and most like Her because they co...

  I recently revisited the growing fad of what is commonly called, labiaplasty as I did an article on some years ago. I wanted to see where things are today and because I also teach about sexuality to women and girls. Since 2016 there has been a 39% increase in labiaplasty surgeries. which can roughly be estimated at more than 12,000 women. This fact still astonishes me and saddens me at the same time. Recent research done by Refinery 29 who took a poll of 3,670 women stated that 48% of them were concerned about the way their vulvas looked. “A third (32%) of women told us they had been made to feel that theirs were not "normal", and when we gave them the chance to expand on this, their accounts made for a disheartening read. Porn was cited time and again, with 72% of women who compare their vagina or vulva to others' referring to it. One woman described her labia as "larger" than she has seen depicted by the industry, another said hers "doesn’t look ...

What makes a woman her most alluring? Is it her brains, beauty, wit, charm or sex appeal? What are the elements that create feminine sexual empowerment? Some might say that for a woman to be sexually empowered she must be experienced. Others might say she must know how to be charming and have great sexual charisma, but true female sexual empowerment includes all of this and more. The truth is that what makes a woman truly powerful and what makes her sexually empowered is not as different as you may think.  One of the primary keys to being a powerful woman is learning how to use her natural goddess-given gifts and talents . Those things that make her, you, the funniest, smartest, or wittiest, and to learn how to cultivate these talents and attributes whether they be beauty, wit, brains, sex appeal, or all of the above. Betsy Prioleau author of the book,  Seductress, Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love , tells us that the archetype of the seductress h...

60% of students turn to porn to learn about sex . In a recent survey by the National Union of Students, 60% of the students questioned turned to porn to learn about sex education. 75% said the sex-related curriculum at their schools was not practical or effective. They rated it as fair, poor, or terrible and 50% of the kids said that issues they need to know about are not covered in class.  These statistics may be shocking but they are showing us how many teens and even pre-teens are now becoming students of internet porn because they want to be better informed and prepared about sex and they don't know where else to go for information. Many do not feel that they can ask their parents or that they don't want to ask their parents and so they are turning to porn. In another survey, the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children conducted of more than 1,000 children age 11-16 and found that at least half had been exposed to online porn. and 94% of th...

“To be authentic, we must cultivate the courage to be imperfect -- and vulnerable. We have to believe that we are fundamentally worthy of love and acceptance, just as we are. I’ve learned that there is no better way to invite more grace, gratitude and joy into our lives than by mindfully practicing authenticity.”— Bren é Brown Authentic is defined in the dictionary as: “not false or copied; genuine; real.” “representing one’s true nature or beliefs; true to oneself or to the person identified. Being authentic is not always easy because we often feel confused by all the mixed messages that are projected onto us by our families, friends, our profession, school, and popular culture. Sometimes it is hard to distinguish what we want from what we are told we should want, or how we should dress, look, especially for women in this culture, where we are constantly bombarded by the media from a very early age. We are told that if we only buy this product or dress a certain way, we w...