Is Pornography the New Sex Ed?



60% of students turn to porn to learn about sex. In a recent survey by the National Union of Students, 60% of the students questioned turned to porn to learn about sex education. 75% said the sex-related curriculum at their schools was not practical or effective. They rated it as fair, poor, or terrible and 50% of the kids said that issues they need to know about are not covered in class. 

These statistics may be shocking but they are showing us how many teens and even pre-teens are now becoming students of internet porn because they want to be better informed and prepared about sex and they don't know where else to go for information. Many do not feel that they can ask their parents or that they don't want to ask their parents and so they are turning to porn.

 In another survey, the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children conducted of more than 1,000 children age 11-16 and found that at least half had been exposed to online porn. and 94% of them had been exposed to it by age 14.

 What all of this is telling us is that the current sex education programs that are being taught in most states are horribly ineffective in supplying the kind of information that will help kids to not only learn about sex in a more holistic and practical way but also to understand the psychological and emotional components that are currently sadly left out. Most schools if they have any sex-ed program focus on the biology, prevention of pregnancy, and STDs.  They rarely address the questions that kids really want to know about.

 The belief that if we just don't talk about sex it will go away, is no longer true and in fact, hasn't ever been true. The more kids watch porn the more they want to have sex and they want to have it the way they see it. They don't know that the people they are watching are not real but are paid actors and faking their reactions and sometimes the act.  And internet porn is not high end so what you often may see in low budget porn is physical and sexual abuse of women.  

What isn't always told is that when a 10-year-old or 13 years old see porn they are often scared and don't understand what it means. They have no context to hold what they are seeing in and only see people having hardcore sex without any semblance of intimacy or connection. Imagine what that would be like for you if your first idea of sexual intimacy came from a porn clip.  What would you believe sex was supposed to look like?

 Many get hooked on the excitement they feel of the dopamine rush and soon they become addicted to that feeling. This can happen very quickly for some kids and often this new exciting high becomes their entire focus,  so they begin to watch porn daily.  


When a kid of any age watches porn repetitively they are learning several things:


  1.  Sex is effortless and will feel and look great every time.
  2. Violence is sexy. 88% of the 304 scenes of porn flicks studies show that 49% show verbal and physical violence.
  3. No consequences of risky sex.
  4. Pleasure is all that matters.
  5. Porn is a healthy expression of our sexuality.
There have also been a number of studies done on connecting porn with sexual and physical violence toward women.  What I find is most frightening is that this new trend is becoming more real as what a boy must do when having sex.  Violence is now normal and acceptable.


When we allow pornography to become the main we that teens and kids learn about sex we are creating a generation of men that disrespect, abuse, and see women as sex objects. We are also creating generations of women and men who no longer believe in love, romance, who have no skills or abilities to connect in any real sense and who often feel isolated and alone, numb to real life.

What You Can Do

  • If you wish to find out more about how you can help stop this growing pandemic go to https://fightthenewdrug.org/     Fight the New Drug is a nonprofit online organization that educates the truth about porn and it effects on all aspects of life.
  • Take an interest and speak to your school about offering an alternative program on sex for your daughter or son that will be more viable to them
  • Write to your representatives in your state Congress and ask them to create a bill to help support more comprehensive sex education in your school district.


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