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What does the empowered woman feel like?  I know we have used the word empowered quite a bit over the past few years. But for me, this word conveys an energy that I like. To feel empowered is for me to feel powerful from within. It truly describes the feminine way of power. Our essential feminine power comes from our core, our sexual center, and our yoni. For men, it resides in the hara or dantien, the solar plexus.  You see the most potent force that women have is our shakti. Our primal life force, sexual creative energy. This force resides in all of us, but for women, it is what in many ways defines us. It is this primal energy from our sex center, the second chakra, (that point just above the pelvic bone) that enables us to create life, to be both wild and untamable as well as docile, harmonious, and calm.  Our sexual energy is our true feminine power as it is here that the creation of life begins and the mystery of our body is held. Our sexual energy entices, ...

Baubo is one of the names of a mythical Greek woman, said to be a servant or wet nurse to the grain goddess Demeter. Baubo exposes her vulva before Demeter, an act called ana-surimi , a Greek verb literally meaning to lift one's skirts. the effect was to make Demeter laugh during a time when the Grain Goddess was deep in mourning over the loss of her daughter, Persephone. But Baubo can be seen as a much older symbol for the power and the energy of female sexuality. She can also be viewed as trickster figure, who with her own jokes, magic, and laughter embodies fecundity and fertility. We have no images of a clearly identifiable Baubo, but her various shapes and her memory have persisted in myth and ritual. She was neither goddess nor night demon, though at times she was claimed as such. For you and me, Baubo can remind us to laugh whenever we become to serious and if picking up our skirts will do the trick then so be it.

Recently, in doing research for a book I am writing, I discovered to my horror how the myth of Adam and Eve was changed to fit the Christian Church's political agenda of the times. Being a woman has never been easy, especially if you happened to be one in Rome, Greece, or anywhere in Europe around 400 AD. The body was considered evil, and sex is almost forbidden except for the act of procreation. And since women represented a temptation to man's contemplation of God, she was seen as the evil temptress. The world was made to believe that women caused the downfall of the human race. This is some pretty heavy 'karma' to live down. So women for generations have taken on these beliefs, and men have too, that have caused us to live in a constant state of apology for being a woman. In my last blog, " Take the Apology Out of Being a Woman" , I refer to these facts. But what I wish to speak about here is how we as women can reclaim the innocence that was taken from us...

Have you ever wondered why women seem to be constantly apologizing for being a woman? I have and what I discovered was, that it is time for women to stop apologizing for being female. Now you may be asking yourself what does this mean, I never see women apologizing for that. But if you take a moment to think about that statement and what it is really saying, you might find yourself answering this question differently. Women have been apologizing for thousands of years for having a vagina, or vulva, for being sexual, for being powerful, clever, smart, creative, for being a woman   with a body that is sexual by nature. It is this apology that is actually part of our collective consciousness and is inbred in every woman and man whether they are aware of it or not. Today in our society it may look like women have made huge strides in the world of men. This is true in so far as a few legal wins, being able to vote, and sexual freedoms. But the culture in which we all li...

Is it our allure that woos men away at a glance, that holds the promise of something they can only wonder at? Is it in our smile, or perhaps the way we walk and move that captures their attention. Is it in our wit and intelligence that causes such chaos among men? Or is it our beauty, the face, and form that could launch a thousand ships? What is this mystery that men cannot understand or explain, that keeps them fascinated in women? Women are complex creatures. We barely understand this mystery that we hold over men, and we are just beginning to explore what this power is that has caused men to both admire and fear us for thousands of years. It seems that from the beginning of creation woman has always been an enigma to man, both revered and feared. For thousands of years, man first worshiped her form as the Goddess incarnate and honored her as the giver of life. And for the past five thousand years, man has tried to control her, exploit her and keep her power at bay. Blaming her for ...

Is the power of a woman’s body the power of her sex? If this is true then what happens when a culture or society sexualizes and industrializes sex, and women as sex objects? You will find exactly what we have today in America and the world. Since the beginning of male domination, some say patriarchy, when women were delegated to second-class citizens, the property of men, and all human rights for the most part eliminated, women were forced into using their sex as a means to survive. This may have been because of their economic conditions because they were given/sold into marriage as breeders for heirs, or because they were made slaves by a conquering nation. Whatever the cause the condition remained the same. Women often felt that the only worth they had, the only weapon of power they held against their captors, was their sex, their body. Thus comes the dismantling of the true power of a woman’s body, and the prostitution of her sex. Everywhere in our world today we see women’s bodies ...