Sexual Empowerment and the Lost Art of Seduction

 

What makes a woman her most alluring? Is it her brains, beauty, wit, charm, or sex appeal? What are the elements that create female sexual empowerment?

Some might say that for a woman to be sexually empowered she must be experienced. Others might say she must know how to be charming and have great sexual charisma, but true female sexual empowerment includes all of this and more.

You may think that with the over usage of the word “sexy” these days, the prostitution of sex, and the rampant use of pornography as the new form of sex education, that female sexual empowerment is a given. But the message that is being blasted into the minds and hearts of teen girls and young adult women is not one of female sexual empowerment but rather one of enslavement.

The truth is that what makes a woman truly powerful is learning how to use her natural given gifts and talents. Those things that make her, you, the funniest, smartest, or wittiest and to learn how to cultivate these talents and attributes whether they be beauty, wit, brains, sex appeal, or all of the above. 

Betsey Prioleau author of the book, Seductress, Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love, tells us that the archetype of the seductress has been given a bad rap. "She has been villainized as the terrible goddess {who} rules over desire and seduction, a bloodthirsty ball breaker like Salome and Circe, and the antithesis of virtuous femininity."

Throughout history, there have been women who have taken their Goddess talents and ravished the world in which they lived. Without these sex goddesses, we would not have known what true female sexual empowerment looked like, felt like, or acted like.

What made these women different from the rest of the women of their time? Many lived during eras where women had no choices of any kind, no education, or way to earn a living other than what was dictated to them by the social structure in which they lived. 

Why were these women unafraid to step out of the mold and dare to be true to themselves? By understanding this we can learn how we can do the same today. Dressing sexy or having a lot of sexual experience doesn't give you true sexual empowerment although it may give you self-confidence.

It is what our current western culture would like us to believe but it falls short in describing and demonstrating what authentic feminine sexual empowerment is. I say sexual, because, women are sexual by design. They have breasts and vulvas and for thousands of years during the reign of the Great Goddess, were seen as the Creatress of all life. In the ancient religions of the Goddess men and women have envisioned goddesses of sexuality and worshipped them. The ever-present symbol of that is the yoni or triangle.

A New Roadmap

Women today need a new roadmap to learn how to reconnect with their authentic feminine power. This can be found in many ways but the one way that I suggest is one of the most interesting and effective is through studying the seductresses of old and new.

Women today have the advantage that many of these women did not have. Today we have permission to explore our sexuality, to dress with a flare that expresses our own sense of style, we are independent, self-supporting, and have more sexual experience than our predecessors were ever allowed. Learning how to embody and integrate the archetypes of the goddesses of love as well as the sacred sensual and essential arts of seduction would support women in embodying more of their authentic sexual power.

The Art of Seduction

The Sirens of old knew that to be a woman who understood the art of seduction you had to first be true to your own yourself.  They were brave, and courageous and weren't afraid to break the rules.

 

 Here are some of the things I have learned from them and from my own experience.

• Love and appreciate who you are and your unique qualities. When you approve of yourself and feel comfortable with yourself others find that very appealing and it can act like catnip.
• Nothing is more attractive than a lust for life. Your life force is a potent perfume so let your own shakti fire burn.
• Honor your body and your sex. Be sexually autonomous and enjoy your own company as much as you enjoy others.
• If you love sex, take the time to learn the sacred sensual arts, tweak your repertoire and try on new things. Nothing is sexier than a self-confident woman.
• Don't be afraid to update, change or just create a new look for yourself on a regular basis. Adornment has always been part of the allure. Change is a good thing so once you try on a new look don't be afraid to show it off.
• Creating a romantic, exciting, sacred, or another type of environment is an art so do take the time to learn how to create an environment of beauty and seduction all around you.  
• Cultivate the art of being a great listener. Study compassionate communication. Men and people in general just want to be heard.
• Learn the art of flirting. There are many ways to engage in a flirtatious encounter. Find out what ways you feel most comfortable with and practice them.
• Learn how to appreciate the man or woman you are with. When in doubt appreciate, appreciate, appreciate.
• Settle for nothing and demand that life gives you the best in relationships, love, and life. 

 

If you wish to conquer the world be brave, bold, daring, and the most authentic version of yourself that you can be. You are already a unique person since each of us is born with our own unique gifts and talents.  Make the most of what you already have, show off your strengths, and underplay your weaknesses.  Trust yourself and your own intuition as to what action needs to be taken when it does and even if you make a mistake just carry on as if it was meant to be.  

The last and most important thing to remember is that as a woman who knows how to handle her innate sexual power never, ever apologize for it. Never ever apologize for being a woman who is too hot to handle.

If you would like to open more to your authentic sexual power and step more fully into it please go to my website, The New Feminine Rising, and the many ways in which you can work with me.