Friday, January 13, 2017

The True Meaning of Sisterhood ~ Taking a Stand for the Divine Feminine


We are living in both challenging and powerful times, especially here in the U.S. where a new regime has been falsely put into power. What this means for all of us is that it is time to take our power back from the undeserving and step-up and fight for our rights as citizens of a democratic republic.

As a woman, I have a vested interest beyond just my human rights to take a stand at this most crucial time in history. Women today for the first time in thousands of years have one of the most powerful and strongest voices that have ever been heard. As representatives of the Divine Feminine, we have been gaining strength and power in leaps and bounds since Venus eclipsed the sun in 2011. Never before has the world seen women stand up for being a woman with the numbers that we have seen in these past years. Women such as Eve Ensler who helped to create the one million movement and women in every walk of life have been making strides in their own way.

Women everywhere are redefining what it means to be a woman in this era of feminine power and we are collectively taking a stand to stop the backlash of feminism, of our right to keep Roe vs Wade, to stop the misogynistic and rape culture we are living in from decimating the hard-won laws and rights that so many women before us gave their time and lives for. With this new "regime" about to be sworn in as our 45th president, this is no time to sit back and wait to see what happens. Women and the men that support them, need to stand-up and be seen and heard. It is time for us all to speak the TRUTH and to live as our true selves, our wise woman selves.


What matters most at this time is that all women stand together in solidarity, as we are doing here in the U.S.for the march on January 21st in Washington. This march is just the beginning and it is not just for the women who live here but for every woman who has suffered for being born a woman and whose rights have been taken away.

So I invite you to align with the women who are marching on the 21st and to see what you are willing to do to defend your right to live freely as you choose to live and to choose to become a sister to all women. To join hearts, hands and minds with your sisters across the miles and to know that we are connected.  It does not matter what town, village, state or country you live in. 

When taking a stand for yourself you stand for all women everywhere. When healing yourself you heal all women everywhere.


By doing this you can help shift the collective consciousness that has been so prevalent for the past 5,000 years and support the Divine Feminine in remaining strong.  Your conscious decision to do this will be felt in the collective field as ripples in a pond when a stone is thrown in it. When enough people align together and focus their intentions on one thing that they wish to see change, it is guaranteed to happen. Alone we can be powerful but together we are UNSTOPPABLE.

Friday, December 16, 2016

The Power of Beauty



For hundreds if not thousands of year’s men have been dictating the standards of beauty to women. No matter what time in history beautiful women have been admired, sculpted, painted and sought after. Being beautiful was something that every woman wanted to be for being beautiful gave women power over men. Look at Helen of Troy who started the Trojan war she was considered the most beautiful woman of her time, her face having launched a thousand ships. Being beautiful gave a woman an edge in the world of men.

Today, just like sex, beauty has become a commodity. Naomi Wolf in her book The Beauty Myth, shares how women for decades has been sold a bill of goods by the marketing moguls of Madison Ave., and that women have believed them. The standards of beauty continue to be dictated by men for the most part. The fashion industry, Hollywood, MTV, are brainwashing not only women but girls as well and we continue to believe that we are not the right kind of beautiful or not beautiful enough.


Being thought beautiful is still a prize to be sought by women everywhere and there seems to be no end insight. Our culture still idolizes beautiful women above all others, which has diminished the value of women as a whole.



 In each era, you will find the standards of what defines beauty in a woman changes. In one era, it might be ivory skin, tiny waist, rosy cheeks, and in another being voluptuous and full figured or as in our own day, being blonde, skinny and busty. I find it interesting that women have had very little say as to what they feel defines being a beautiful woman is and we allow ourselves to be told over and over again how we should look, act, dress, smell and be.

Don’t you think it is time that we take our power back from men, women and anyone who is telling us what we should look like, dress like and feel like? Don’t you think it is time to for women to define what being beautiful means to them?

Since beauty is in the eye of the beholder, you must train yourself a to see beauty in yourself and to begin to question what the media or the collective consensus is telling you.

We have the opportunity to move forward at this time and to change the status quo. For never has there been a more urgent need to do so. It makes me heartsick to see another generation of girls grow up thinking that being beautiful is the only value that they have and that being beautiful has to look a certain way. 

We can broaden our definitions of what makes a woman  look beautiful to go beyond the old adage, "Beauty is only skin deep." We can choose for ourselves what it means for us to be a beautiful woman. 

I invite you to be the one that takes the lead in being a woman who dares to define for herself what being a powerful, strong and beautiful woman is.



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Tuesday, November 15, 2016

What is Feminine Allure and the New Feminine Mystique



I love the word 'allure'. The word itself captivates one and I find it holds the energy of its meaning. To be alluring is 1) to tempt or entice; 2) the power of attraction, 3) to beguile. It could also mean that you  have charisma or even the power to seduce or be seductive. When one is 'alluring' the one who is being allured is under a “spell” or so it may seem.

Don’t you just love knowing that if you are a woman you have the power to beguile? In fact, that is where it all began in the mythical Garden of Eden when the Snake (symbol for sexuality) beguiled Eve to eat the tree of knowledge.

The question I wish to explore here is if this is the old definition of what it means to be alluring then what could the new definition be?

This is an important question for women to answer, for ever since the ‘fall’ we women have been trying to apologize for being a woman. I believe that the time has come to reshape, reconfigure and redefine what it means to be a woman who has allure or what I call 'feminine mystique'.

It has been for literally thousands of years that we have been told that it was our ability to entice men that caused the downfall of mankind. Our innate sexuality was too hot for a man to handle. And so the word allure got a bad rap and women were told that to be too sexy, too enticing or seductive was wrong. Only bad girls did that, not good girls. And even though we wanted to please our mothers and fathers we also wanted to explore our bad girl nature.

Over 30 years ago Betty Friedan wrote the book, The Feminine Mystique. It rocked the feminist world and brought awareness to the roles of women, a subject that had never been questioned. Although this book was written decades ago, many of these ideas are still prevalent in our culture today. Betty Friedan’s book exposed the roles of women in the 50’s and 60’s as well as the attitudes that accompanied them, and as such allowed us to bring to light how women were so repressed by the social standards and mores of their day.

 Feminine Sexual Essence

 From the first woman Lilith, women have always been the more dynamic and active partner, especially in lovemaking, for we are the expression of Shakti the Primal Goddess. She represents raw sexuality, uncontrolled emotions. She can be fierce or gentle. She is untameable and is our primal nature, the Wild Woman. It is the feminine in her most natural state in full acceptance of her sexual power and her sexual appetite.This aspect of the feminine has always scared the male population and it has also scared many women. Of course, this was not always the case, especially before the demise of the Goddess. But it has been the case for the past 10 thousand years. And so the time has come for women to embrace this aspect of her feminine nature and to use it with love, wisdom, and reverence and to hold it sacred.


The New Feminine Mystique


The New Feminine Mystique is a new possibility for you as a woman to shift the current way in which you embody and express your sexual power, your sexual allure and your feminine sexual essence. It is a conversation that explores what it means to be a fully-embodied sexually-awake, totally integrated woman. How we as women use our power, the power of our sex and sexual allure is a question whose time has come. This power that women hold resides in their womb. It is a mysterious magnetic power that attracts all back to their divinity. It is also the primal energy of the feminine.

  • The New Feminine Mystique takes the shame out being an alluring woman and redefines this age-old term. 
  • To be a woman who is alluring now can mean to be someone who has kept her passion and erotic nature alive, a woman who is inspired by her vision and who knows how to show herself in the best light.
  •  She wears her womanliness proudly and without apology.
  •  She knows how to use the power of attraction that her sacred womb holds. 
  • Her sexuality is appropriately expressed when it is the right time and is not used to manipulate others to get what she wants.
  •  She no longer needs to do that in order to survive.
  •  She is a woman who is virginal unto herself and knows that she can satisfy herself erotically and does not need a man to do this. Because of this, she is not afraid of men and therefore can love them for being men.
  •  She is a woman who is now thriving in her sexual power.

When a woman no longer needs a man to feel fulfilled she is then free to love them for being who they are.

With this as a guide more and more women can begin to stand tall and feel that being a sexually potent, fully impassioned and alive woman is magnificent and something to be celebrated.

We are faced with many challenges at this time in our history, for never have women been so free on one hand and on the other so sexualized and objectified. It is time for all women to begin to remember where the source of their power resides and to honor this power as the gift that it is.



If you would like to learn how you can reconnect with the source of your authentic feminine power and feminine allure please visit: The School of Womyn's Mysteries.

Sunday, October 23, 2016

RECLAIMING YOUR AUTHENTIC FEMININE POWER


Is the power of a woman's body the power of her sex?

If this is true then what happens when a culture or society sexualizes and industrializes sex, and women and girls as sex objects? What happens when the culture you live in only values you for your sex appeal and denigrates you because you are a woman?

Since the beginning of male domination, some say patriarchy, over 5,000 years ago, when women were delegated to second class citizens, the property of men, and all human rights for the most part eliminated. Women were forced into using their sexuality as a means to survive. This may have been because of their economic conditions or because they were given/sold into marriage as breeders for heirs, or because they were made slaves by a conquering nation. Whatever the cause the condition remained the same. Women often felt that the only worth they had, the only weapon of power they held against their captors, was their sex, their body. Thus comes the dismantling of the true power of a woman's body, and the prostitution of her sex.

Everywhere in our world today we see women's bodies used as sexual objects to sell cars, beer, underwear, music and countless other items. We see girls being taught that to be "hot" is to be sexy and sexy equals power. Is this because we deem women to be beautiful and symbolic of what man, considers to be beautiful?No this is because the advertising industry and the media is in the business of selling things deems that women represent sex and sex sells.

If women and our bodies were not still identified as a means to gratifying men's desires, wants or needs then could we begin to see ourselves and our body as something that is wholly ours, something private and sacred for us to choose when and with whom we could share it. Could we begin to value ourselves for something other than how we look and how sexy we are to men?



Over 10,000 years ago in many egalitarian societies, where the feminine was honored and the images of the Goddess was revered, women's bodies were sacred. Sex was a sacred act of love between two individuals and was blessed by the Goddess. Women and men for the most part shared equally the responsibilities of creating a sustainable community and lifestyle. Women were seen as partners and as such shared in the governing and education of the people.Women's bodies was seen as part of the great mystery of life connected with the creation of life and thus held in high regard by all.

In these societies women held a sense of purity and innocence. This primarily was because in these societies women and nature were revered and honored. They were seen as whole beings who contributed to daily life of the community and that their body was their own to give to whom ever they chose to. Their body was pure (not necessarily virginal) but pure, and sex was something to be shared with someone you loved or cared for. Sex was considered a sacred act and a transmission of holy energy. The power of a woman's body was then found in the power of her smile, her eyes, her touch her very presence. Her sensuality and her love was a gift to man, her form was respected.

For women today to reclaim this purity and innocence of body and spirit...to once again understand where their true power lies, will require that all women and men everywhere no longer accept the normalization of the exploitation and sexualization of women and girls. It would require that we reclaim our natural innocence and to no longer fear our sexual power.

This is not a question of sexual freedom or a feminist issue but rather a question of human dignity, sexual and psychological health. It is time to create a new world where our children can be children where girls can once again run freely, naturally...where women can walk down the street and feel safe and where the feminine is valued in all of us, both men and women. It is time for a world that is a reflection of these values and only you and I can create it.

I invite you to take a stand to no longer support the current status quo of how women and girls are viewed in this culture and  reclaim your authentic feminine power.

Here are a few suggestions to assist you in taking the first steps:

  • Start by healing yourself if you have suffered from sexual or physical abuse. Their are many options today to deal with sexual trauma. 
  • Make a list of all the things you like and/or appreciate about yourself and then add one new thing a day. 
  • Begin to see value in who you are and what you offer to the world not just in how you look or your sexual savvy. Tell yourself that you are valuable, you are worthy and deserve to be loved, honored and respected.
  • Learn how to love and accept your body and to appreciate your yoni. Get to know her and learn to Yoni Speak.
  • Make friends with the psychological aspects of yourself. 
  • There are many archetypes that we embody, victim, survivor, child, rebel, queen and many many more. By beginning to get to know these aspects you can begin to become a more whole and integrated person.
  • Be an example for other women and girls by reclaiming your authentic feminine power and support other girls and women in doing the same.
Resources:
The School of Womyn's Mysteries
AASCET (The American Assoc. of Sex Educators and Therapists)
The Somatic Sensual Healing Institute

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Saturday, October 8, 2016

RECLAIMING THE WORD WHORE



For centuries women have been classified into categories of being either good or bad. Good being virginal, (her hymen intact), a woman that does not sleep around or who is not promiscuous; bad meaning, just the opposite, a “whore”, slut, seductress/seducer, a woman who enjoys sex with many men who steals other women’s men or who just enjoys sex.  Although today in Western society, women have more freedom than ever before, these old attitudes still remain.  In many other countries throughout the world a woman’s virginity is still considered a prize possession kept only for her husband and if a woman is found to not be virginal when she is of a marriageable age she is ostracized and considered ruined 
 and unclean.

These attitudes have been accepted by the collective field of humanity, and therefore passed down  from generation to generation. Women in particular, have taken these attitudes to heart as they have been passed down from great-grandmother, to grandmother, to mother and daughter. They alive become entrenched within the collective psyche of all women and within the cellular memory of our bodies.  
These ideas have become so prevalent and accepted as the norm that one of the worst things you can call another girl or woman is a “whore”, this word being an all-inclusive “bad” girl who sleeps around.
As a result of this women have felt split between the two. Am I a good girl or bad girl, Madonna or whore these being the only two choices we have had.  Although today, we have to some degree shifted some of these old ways of thinking about women’s sexuality, you can still see the effects of these entrenched beliefs played out in our media and on  advertising, music, and videos.  Especially hurt are young girls who are still being told that their primary value is to be beautiful and sexy at any age. 


 “The separation into priestess and prostitute, or sacred and profane polarities, occurred for western civilization when the early fathers of Christianity claimed power by abolishing goddess worship and other nature-based pagan religions. In actuality, the bipartite woman, both whore and Madonna, was a construct of the early Papal Councils around 600 AD.”

This separation was designed to diminish the power of the Goddess and her representatives, the priestesses of Her temples. Priestesses were eventually regulated to perform only certain tasks by the priests who were now given full range of power.


The Origin of the Word Whore

The term "sacred whore" is not an oxymoron. If we explore the etymology of the words "whore" or "harlot," we find that the split between "priestess" and "prostitute" is a relatively recent one. In her book When God Was A Woman, Merlin Stone informs us that the Hebrew word zonah means both prostitute and prophetess. Barbara Walker, in her Dictionary of Woman's Myths and Secrets, points out that the Hebrew word hor means a cave, pit, or dark hole. The Spanish word for whore, puta, derives from the Latin term for a well, but the Latin term for grave, literally "a hole in the earth," is puticuli, meaning womb of rebirth. These terms for whore were not derogatory.

The Latin term had its root in the Vedic, an early Sanskrit language, wherein the word puta is defined as pure and holy. The cave, the pit, the hole, and the bottomless black lake were metaphors for the Great Goddess, She who is unnameable, that darkness primordial from which all life (light) is born. She is the Everything and The Nothing -- Hole-y, Holy, Wholly. The Sacred Whore at work was, in fact, the manifestation the Great Goddess. 
Today these ideas are not completely lost. 

The Hebrew folk dance named the hora, a tradition at Jewish weddings, is named after the circle dances of the sacred harlots. Such holy harlots were often "brides of God" similar to modern nuns, the "brides of Christ." The holy harlots were set apart to give birth to Sons of God. In other words, these women had the job of changing human-animal into human-god. 

It is time for women everywhere to reclaim their Herstory and to take back the original meaning of this word. The change must come from women first in order to affect a change in how the word is used. Just like the word cunt was reclaimed, women have the power, you have the power to reclaim the holy sacredness of your sexuality and your sexual power. By taking back the word Whore, and restoring it to it's original meaning not only will you and I benefit but so will your daughters and all women everywhere.

If you would like to find out more about Herstory of these amazing women please go to my website, The School of Womyn's Mysteries, to find out more about my upcoming programs for 2017.


Sunday, September 18, 2016

PORN AND ITS EFFECTS ON SEXUAL INTIMACY AND THE VIRILITY OF MEN



“An increasing problem for the vagina, and the whole of life of the woman who owns that vagina, is that porn affects men neurologically, to their detriment.”  Naomi Wolf

There is increased evidence that watching porn repetitively severely inhibits how men respond to sexual intimacy, their ability to have an erection and to enjoy making love with their partner. Not only is a man’s ability to sustain an erection effected but so is his desire to have foreplay and to learn the “arts of love”, which provide the necessary caresses women’s autonomic nervous systems need in order for a woman to be able to fully reach arousal.

It seems that “ordinary” sex is no longer stimulating to many men who are heavy porn users. Frequent masturbation to porn may also train your brain and body to only respond sexually to these types of visual stimuli. “This phenomenon has diminished the sexual satisfaction of many women, similar to that found in the 1997 and 2004 sexual surveys,” says Naomi Wolf in her book Vagina.

“Pornography is inspiring and sexually motivating,” says Dr. Ursula Ofman, Ph D., a New York-based clinical psychologist and sex therapist. But if you masturbate too frequently—especially in the hours before you attempt sex with a partner—your recent orgasms may make it more difficult for you to perform, or may lower your interest in sex, Ofman says.

What this means is that there can be an increased susceptibility for a man to have ED, or Erectile Dysfunction, when he tries to have sex with his partner.

Possible signs of porn-induced sexual dysfunction include:


  • A man is able to achieve erections and orgasms with pornography, but he struggles with one or both when he’s with an in-person partner.
  •  A man is able to have sex and achieve orgasm with partners, but reaching orgasm takes a long time and his partners complain that he seems disengaged.
  • A man is able to maintain an erection with real-world partners, but he can only achieve orgasm by replaying porn clips in his mind.
  • A man increasingly prefers porn to real-world sex, finding it more intense and more engaging.
  • A man needs to recreate his porn images in his real life relationships to get an erection.
  • Younger men tend to expect women to provide them with the same stimulus they seen in porn.



Porn and Its Effects on Young Males

Two surveys were done in Japan, one in 2008, the other in 2010. The issue is not only more prevalent than one might expect, but growing. For instance, the 2008 survey found that 17.5 percent of males aged 16 to 19 stated they had no interest in or an outright aversion to sex with another person. Two years later, this percentage had more than doubled, to 36.1 percent. For males, aged 20 to 24 the percentage increase was similar, up from 11.8 percent in 2008 to 21.5 percent in 2010. This rising disinterest in real-world physical intimacy coincides directly with the online porn explosion, which began in earnest right around 2008. (Psychology Today)

The fact is that porn is more available now because of the internet than ever before. Young boys who are just reaching puberty now have access to images of the sex act that were never available before. These images may range from men and women to bestiality and violent sexual acts. Real life examples of sexual intimacy, such as foreplay, kissing and talking are not shown and there is no way for these younger men to learn what healthy sexual intimacy looks like. Young men can see so much variety on porn these days that it can offer continuous stimulation. Some men say they go from one image to the next thus keeping a dopamine high.

The problem is also related to the fact that if a guy spends 70, 80 or even 90 percent of his time watching porn…endless images of sex being performed in a myriad of positions, constantly changing partners he may find his real life partner is less stimulating than the visuals he has seen online.    (Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S)

 Statistics state that in the U.S. there are 107 million visits per month to adult porn sites and there are 259 million  porn users in the U.S.  These statistics stagger the mind and unfortunately have not only led to a rise in the number of young men who now have some form of ED, but have also created issues regarding how young women see themselves and how they feel about sex. Many young women have stated that when they are having sex they feel as if they are watching someone else.  They don't feel they are actually in the act but rather observing someone else since what they are doing doesn't feel authentic.  I believe that this type of comment is a direct reflection of how pornography has effected women regarding how they relate to themselves and to the sex act.

What You Can Do About It

The most fundamental way to change any habit is to provide a more comprehensive education about that subject, then offer options or alternative ways to express that particular subject. Sex education in public or private schools is not adequate. It rarely covers what it takes to create healthy sexual intimacy, which includes the mechanics or physiology of sex as well as the emotional intimacy of a healthy relationship.There are also more and more studies being done on this subject and they are easily accessible on line.

Some things you can do about it are:

1. Suggest to your son or daughter’s high school that a pilot program on healthy sexual intimacy and relationships be taught.

2. Create off campus or on, after school programs where parents participate with kids in discussing these topics.

3. Have more discussions at home, or have them sponsored at school, the effects that porn has on healthy sexuality.

4. Broadening sex education for adult males and women would also assist in helping them to disengage from porn as their main model of sexual contact. 


Below is a wonderful Ted talk that I hope will provide you with some more information.



This link is also another Ted Talk that has a great deal of very pertinent information on how watching porn effects the brain. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU


If you have any other suggestions, feel free to comment below. I invite anyone who would like to contribute legitimate solutions to do so.

Monday, September 5, 2016

THE TRUE POWER OF SISTERHOOD


  


"Within the sacred womb of women dwells a mysterious magnetic power that attracts all back to their divinity." 

For thousands of years women have been gathering in sacred circles to recognize the bond that unites them. It is this bond that goes deeper than women being friends or even being a “sister” that I am addressing.

Having a woman's body is the bond that unites all women everywhere. It is because of our sex, our "yoni", that we are deeply connected and bonded. The yoni is one of the most ancient symbols for feminine power.This symbol has been found on cave walls dated thousands of years ago. 

"It is through the intimacy of every woman's body, that the flame of spirit is kept for it's direct transmission to others." (Lilith, Keepers of the Flame.)

Throughout the many civilizations of Goddess based cultures, this symbol of feminine power has been used. This understanding of our feminine power is as ancient as our world. It's origins are from the first woman Lilith in the Garden of Eden. There have been cults developed about the power of the “yoni” in Ancient India and the flow of
the “elixir of life” or amrita.


It is through our remembering this power and reclaiming the innocence of our body that we reclaim the innocence of all women everywhere and step into our sisterhood. It is through the portal of acknowledging the source of your authentic feminine power, that a new paradigm regarding how women and women's sexuality are viewed can be established.




There is nothing you have to do to become a part of this sisterhood other than making a conscious decision that this bond between women is one that transcends the collective belief about women in relationship with each other. This bond rather than seeding more competition, jealousy and fear between women can unite us. When you remember where your power resides and that it is this very thing that unites all women, you will know yourself to be a Temple Sister.

Some of the Qualities of a Temple Sister

  • She is a woman who is vibrantly alive and radiating her love.

  • She is dedicated to speaking the TRUTH in order to serve and reveal any illusion.

  • She knows who she is, how she serves and lives from this center point.

  • She loves, respects and honors herself and therefore loves, respects and honors other women.

  • She sees the priestess in all women and supports them in seeing it too.
  • She celebrates the successes of her sisters and willingly collaborates and supports new endeavors. 

  • She knows her mind but follows her heart.

  • She understands the power of her sex, has reclaimed her erotic innocence and fully expresses her sexuality authentically.

  • She lives in innocence and celebrates being a woman.

  • She loves her body no matter what shape, size, and age she is, and treats it as a Temple.
  • She recognizes that because she has a woman’s body she is connected, bonded with all women everywhere.
She Is You!



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